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July 18th, 2010 by aussieboy63

As I continue to look for people to tell their story, I constantly look back at what I have done and look at ways that I can improve.  I had an interesting comment from someone that I am always really positive about the models when I write their stories.  Whether it was meant to be or not, I took it as a compliment, because I want to tell their story in a positive light.  If I don’t think I will connect with the model or more importantly dislike or don’t respect them, I will never ask them.  Part of being a story teller is to give people a positive experience, and I am not into the muck-raking or envy that sometimes can happen.  I will continue to keep it light, real and positive and hope you continue to enjoy as I journey forward

BRENT CORRIGAN'S heat

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Been Away to Think

July 10th, 2010 by aussieboy63

Sorry that I have been very silent for the last week, but I have had to withdraw and really think about who I am and where I am with my new direction.  I had for a brief moment in my darkest thoughts decided to delete this blog and my twitter account and ignore all of the confusion in my mind.  However, I am not by nature a quitter and so started rationally working through the issues that confront me as I see it.

Once I have got it all right in my mind, I will tell you the basis for my confusion, but the main thing is that I am now comfortable with where I want to be, but more importantly with who I am. 

With that in mind, I will start blogging again and hope those who look at it will continue to enjoy it

BRENT CORRIGAN'S heat

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New Helix Cover

June 23rd, 2010 by aussieboy63

I have just seen the new cover of Helix’s latest 8teenboy release Horny Twinks and I have got to say it is one of the best covers I have seen in a long time.  It is just so fresh looking compared to the rest and the main picture with Tommy Anders and Ashton Michaels is a great centrepiece.  Thumbs up to the design people at Helix

BRENT CORRIGAN'S heat

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About My Blog

June 23rd, 2010 by aussieboy63

I have had a few people make a comment about why I don’t have anything hardcore on my blog, which is a fair question.  There is a simple answer though.  I wanted to present the natural beauty of these gorgeous young men, and to me that is eyes and smile with a nice chest thrown in.  The same with any interviews I do, it is more about talking about the men behind the name. 

Dewayne at dewayneinsd.com and Chucky at www.sdborderboys.com both do great blogs about all of the new scenes and the news so I can offer nothing new.  I look at alot of blogs and I really love the work these boys do.

I have always believed that photographs are an art form and some studios do not do justice to the natural beauty of the young men they capture in a lens.  So my site is geared to that and as a result some of the studios that I have subscribed to will not be represented, despite the great vids they produce.  Boycrush, Citiboyz and now Homoscene all have great photosets, and I am hoping more will look at doing that, but the sad reality is that screencaps at best may be all we see and that is a shame.

Anyway enjoy the beautiful men that I do have on my blog.  I am always open to suggestions too.

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What’s Love Got To Do With It

June 21st, 2010 by aussieboy63

As you know I love just sitting on Twitter and just observing as I continue to figure out where I sit in life and where my next steps will be.  Of late, maybe because things are becoming clearer in my own mind, I have noticed an interesting theme in many of the tweets which I thought I would discuss.

Yeah I know this a man in his forties talking, but I think it applies to most ages.  I watch sometimes enviously at the many young fellas that I either follow or talk to who are living a vibrant and care-free life.  They go out and party and hook up and life is generally one great big party, but of late a random tweet or sometimes a flood of tweets makes me think that maybe they are not so lucky.  These young and beautiful men are more and more starting to yearn for a little bit more in life.

There is nothing that can truly match that feeling you have for one person and the trust that is associated with being a couple.  The key word here is trust, because commitment is absolute, not convenient.  Until more people make that distinction there will be wandering souls looking for that elusive thing we call love.  I have read with interest and at times amusement the big push for gay marriage.  To me we simply should be talking about marriage, the legal union of two people who want to commit to each other for life.  Two people I talked to when I first started Twittering hammered me about this and how they thought it should apply to all, and then both proved themselves unworthy and cheated.  Funny isn’t it. Marriage is a commitment no matter what the mix of the couple.

Mabye because I cannot see myself being a part of that fast-lane lifestyle that I make these comments, but really I found some of the most cherished moments to be a snuggle or cuddle, as much as sex.  I reckon if you looked at yourself in the mirror and were truly honest with yourself, wouldn’t you prefer to know you could go home to someone and just enjoy being special.  I would challenge anyone whose answer is no.  However, for all of that to happen there needs to be a realization that relationships are built on trust.  Many of the young people I know in my straight life figured that out, and I hope the same happens with my gay friends.  There is truly nothing better then having someone special.  I will finish with two verses from Tina Turner, because I find that quite often song lyrics capture things in fewer words:-

Oh whats love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a second hand emotion

What’s love got to do, got to do with it
What’s love but a sweet old fashioned notion

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The Tyranny of Distance

June 17th, 2010 by aussieboy63

I have been on Twitter for some time and have developed good friendships in that time with a few people (as much as can be developed given the fact it is a conversation based friendship).  A bloke I have established a really strong bond with in time is Justin, a young bloke living in LA and we chatted every day since our first chat.  Suddenly the airwaves were silent and I knew something was wrong, but given he is in the USA and I am in Australia, I was helpless to find out had happened.  We know more about each other than most people, but yet the globe basically separates us. 

 Fortunately we have also talked on facebook and his uncle told us the news that I had been dreading, that he had been in a serious car accident and was in a bad way.  Emotions fly through your mind and body and the realisation of how helpless or powerless you truly are sets in.  Fortunately the news has proven to be much better one day on, but it did make me think that I enjoy the “twitter company” of a small band of people and probably have more to to with them than many people that live in my city. Yet, if the airwaves go silent, what do you do. It makes you realise that Twitter is a great communication medium, but if there is no communication, there is only stark silence.

Cyber friendships are real and are no different to my younger days when I had pen friends (yes in the days when you wrote a letter and mailed it).  I take nothing for granted any more and can’t wait until I chat my young friend again.

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What Makes A Star

June 16th, 2010 by aussieboy63

I have often pondered the question of what makes a star, and since I have been blogging the question has assumed greater proportions.  I follow normal people like you and I on Twitter but I also have a big selection of people from the Adult Industry.  Some of these people are only new to the industry and then there are those who have made a good living out of this work.

Before I go any further I did some looking in dictionaries on what defines a star.  The Cambridge dictionary defines it as:

“a very famous, successful and important person, especially a performer…”

I would agree with that but is there a quality about how the person behaves that we all subconsciously equate with a star.  After all in music or acting a person could be famous, etc, but their behaviour sees us label them as divas.  Fame, success, importance are all vital ingredients of being a star, but then the man or woman behind the performance determines how we view them and remember them as time passes.

The Adult Entertainment Industry is no different to these other industries, with people being labelled stars or icons of the industry.  I have been stewing on this false idol worship for a while not being sure whether I should comment or not, but really these are only my thoughts and will change nothing.  I had no preconceived ideas when i ventured into that fantastic world of Gay Adult Entertainment, had no knowledge of the big cahunas or anything like that.  I noticed very early that there is almost a caste system in place within the industry that actively promotes are skewed version of manliness and is extremely discriminatory.

You obviously search on-line and have a look around and names begin to repeat so you build a knowledge quickly.  It became apparent very quickly that there is a situation that exists in the industry not dissimilar to the golden days of Hollywood where a small number of studios called the shots and controlled it jealously.  I believe that very much is the case in the Gay Adult Industry at the moment where a small number of studios control our tastes and create idols to worship based on their tastes.  The recent awards proved that beyond a benefit of a doubt to me. 

These big studios build their stars up to status disproportionate to their standing and many of these so-called “stars” do not deal with this fame at all well.  Twitter is a great medium for sizing up the true worth of some of these people, because they are not on show and you see the real them.  Most join Twitter as a marketing tool, but then many ignore the fact that their followers are there because they are fans.  The best example recently is the Fleshjack competition where the contenders were canvassing for support, trying to be the next megastar.  It was like pre-election time in politics where the candidates have to talk to you to get what they want and then once it is over ….Who are you?  Of all of them I tip my hat off to Brent Everett who happily chatted away to we, the great unwashed.  He is in my eyes a true star and I hope that he achieves all that he hopes.

The fact that studios that I enjoy watching are called amateur is sanctimonious, because many of the performers of those studios have presented far more professionally than some of the “names.”  I have had the fortune of interviewing a number of “up and comers” as well as some more experienced models, and they have been nothing but considerate in the way they speak to people and make themselves accessible.  There are of course those who have fallen for the glamour and are behaving accordingly, but generally that comes about from youthful exhuberance.

You would hope that some will figure out that the people who pay for the DVD’s and membership subscriptions are at least to be acknowledged but for some I would think not.  One of the good things writing this article is that I don’t have to worry about the repercussions, because the people I write about would be too conceited to acknowledge maybe it refers to them.

When you read the media lately, that lustre that makes a star shine is beginning to fade.  Maybe  something to consider

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The Twink Question

June 2nd, 2010 by aussieboy63

I have had reason over the last few days to do a considerable amount of self-evaluation and assessment.  It came about after having a terrific discussion with a young Aussie who is trying to get into the Adult Entertainment Industry about twinks .  As only two Aussies can do our conversation was brutally honest and opinions were freely exchanged.

When we had finished our discussion, my brain went into overdrive, because some of what he said had me asking myself whether it applied to me.  His main argument regarding twinks was that some were so young looking, almost to the point of looking in their early teens and was this feeding some darker aspect of men’s lust.

I had to take a big step backwards and look at me very quickly, because I have found the gay life late, being in my forties, after living in the straight world.  For those who have tweeted with me they know I am candid and brutal in my self-assessment, so I asked myself was I subconsciously falling into that more sinister side of desire.

I have always loved looking at beautiful younger men, and my tastes in Adult Entertainment reflect that, and never thought of it up to now.  The reality is that Adult Entertainment, as two men I respect and speak to often confirm, is all about catering to our fantasies and the twink market indeed does cater to a largely older population.  Does that make me a monster?  Older men have throughout history have admired or craved younger and more beautiful men.  It is been going on since the Greeks first started carving statues and I believe will until there is no need for us to live in a fantasy world.

But let’s not just stop there we have spanking, bondage, gang-bangs, older men doing younger men…….and the list goes on when other fetishes or tastes are included.  Do the people who enjoy watching these types of videos then transfer this desire into real life, usually not.

What cars do most men want, if they answered honestly?  A red Ferrari!  Why because it is fast, it is powerful, it is beauty, it is desire and to most of us it is unobtainable. Perhaps that is why older men enjoy watching younger men have sex.

From first hand experience the straight entertainment market is awful with beautiful young ladies being humped by ugly old men in most cases.  YUK.  Straight guys still whistle at pretty women walking by them, it is a natural male instinct to seek out beauty.

When I first started looking for DVD’s or internet the mainstream gay stuff really didn’t set my world on fire.  Coming from my different background and being older I am quite secure with my manliness or what constitutes an average man.  I do not need to watch scenes with men that look like they should be on the WWF or bad-boy biker looks.  That is not my perception of manliness, and yet this stereo-typing is affecting the market I enjoy.

The studios that employ these young men are ageist because the market says so, but does it really?.  One of the studios that I subscribe to has members requesting the return of models, not because of their age, but rather because of their appeal or quite often, the quality of their work.  What concerns me is no matter how good their work is, once they reach this “magic” number of 22 they are redundant with twink studios and the mainstream do not seem to want to know them unless they dramatically change their body shape in order to fulfil some imposed perception that they “man-up.”

To me twink more defined the body shape for me and I would watch a 30 year old model with that shape still, but the market does not give me that choice.  There are two stars (I happily call them that because of the quality of their work and volume of work at various studios) whose work I have always liked, Andy Kay and Phillip Ashton. Why? Because they always put on a good show and give me my money’s worth.  Unfortunately for me they are apparently not as marketable in front of the camera and are mainly behind the camera.  So when I hear of a scene with them in it, I am in raptures and the studio gets my money for the month.  I also loved watching Aiden Ash and Jackson Miller and they can’t seem to get a gig at all.  Although, I do need to thank Bryan at Boycrush for bringing Patrick back for one hell of a scene with Patrick Kennedy.

I understand new and shiny brings new models into the system but they are all starting to look the same and the plastic over-scripted performances question my investment.  I am a consumer, happily paying my monthly subscription, rather than pirating, so I have every right to expect entertainment.  I am fortunately finding more options, plus my tastes are evolving, but the leap between the options is too great. . Although I really hate X-Tube maybe something like that which allows people to post scenes and charge for it needs to be done, but obviously in a more structured and controlled manner. 

I dare say I will revisit this discussion, cause when you sitting there reflecting things pop into your head all the time.  As I said in my first post these are purely my opinions and I like a good debate, but in the end I will always see what I think and what I feel.

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Bare-Backing is it cool or cold

May 13th, 2010 by aussieboy63

I will say upfront that I am a newbie to the gay world so I sit and watch intently at anything to do with the issues that light the sparks.  In the Adult Entertainment Industry (I hate the word porn) there are really two, one driven by the customers and the other by the providers.  The issue driven by the customers is of course GAY4PAY, while the issue coming from the studios is that of bare-backing.

It is the issue of bare-backing that I am going to address, because as a consumer I really don’t care about GY4PAY because if they entertain me, I am happy.  I am not going to try for one minute to take any moral high ground and say I know everything, quite the opposite in fact.  However, that does not prevent from having an opinion, and given that I do not have any historical baggage or involvement in the scene, I believe I can provide an objective, maybe even rational comment.

The Adult Entertainment Industry provides us with the unique opportunity of watching beautiful men in situations most of us simply dream about.  Studios provide a smorgasboard of beautiful men from twinks to musclemen and we happily pay for the entertainment they provide.  Studio owners rightly are in business to make money, and generally walk the same path to do so.  One issue that I believe does split the industry is that of bare-backing.

The whole debate of bare-back sex in the Adult Entertainment Industry creates seriously emotional responses, but it really can be stripped back to a basic ethos.  Is it morally right for certain segments of the industry to put models/actors in the position of life-affecting problems simply for the purpose of entertainment?  I suppose there is an argument if they are older and more aware of all the issues, but when you see 18 year olds who just want success and fame, they are either unaware of unconcerned about the potential disasters that await them.

I am going to really look hard over the next month at articles, websites and again watch people to see if I can make any further contribution to the debate.  I would be interested in what people have to say either way.  In closing I am a consumer, and yes I have watched bare-back scenes, but as far as them being hotter than scenes with condoms I cannot personally agree.  I have seen bareback scenes that are the “Jellyfish Principle” (in the straight world it applies to the woman laying there with arms and legs splayed looking at the ceiling) and seen scorching hot safe scenes.  Just have a look at the recent Boycrush video with Patrick Kennedy and Jackson Miller.

Anyway  leave you to mull it over

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Sound on or Sound off

May 11th, 2010 by aussieboy63

An interesting post on the Boycrush forum today about models saying all the cliched things like fuck me, etc.  I am probably one out here but I can tell you there is nothing more that gets me out of the mood than scripted moans and one-liners.  Some companies have some drop-dead gorgeous models performing, but I turn the sound down because can’t stand all the preipheral noise.  To me a vid works when you feel the models are into what they are doing, and i suppose who they are doing.  There is no need to fill the empty spaces with all of this crap, that is the biggest problem i had with the straight porn.  I am sure someone will take me to task on it but when someone has some gorgeous and hot man ploughing into him, does saying “fuck me harder” do anything for the moment.  I don’t think so.

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